At my Best





I fall, I break

I mess up, I make mistakes

But if you can’t take me at my WORST

You don’t deserve me

At my BEST

MGK featuring Kailee Steinfield 

I'm angry.  I'm misunderstood.  My voice is silenced.  My sincerity squashed.  

You judge me, dehumanize me, see the worst in me, ostracize me, gossip about me.  

You say I don't care...

Is this who you think I am?  Ok.  This is who I'll be to you then.  Screw it.  

I get it though.  There have been chapters in my life that I also have been guilty of some of these same behaviors.  

With the utmost compassion, I forgive and release you.

If we never speak again, above all, I hope you find forgiveness and let go of any hurt so that your heart may be at peace.  

Today, I was walking and listening to the podcast: On Purpose by Jay Shetty.  Lil Nas X: Overcoming the battle between embracing authenticity and navigating society's expectations. 

In my own words, the following point is driven home and really resonates with me: 

Society says "Be yourself". NO wait...be authentic in a way that makes me feel good.  Be a dash of you, but mostly be like me.  That will make me happy.  

I feel like when we step out with courage to stand up for our beliefs, push against the grain, lay down boundaries....people become fearful.  I believe this fear is the driving force behind anger, avoidance and hate.   

I will always own my own stuff.  I will continue to resist being someone I'm not or acting against my own values to please someone else.  

This is me...

NO apologies.  

I love this girl.  




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